Wendy Jo was kind of a realist. She had accepted her fate some time ago and sought to find peace within herself. She had (in her own words) a very inappropriate sense of humor about her situation because she preferred levity over gloom. She always tried to keep people from feeling uncomfortable about her situation by telling jokes or in other ways. The trick was to get a laugh instead of a cry or sad face.
She preferred not to focus on the negative but instead to focus on the positive. Her wish at the end was that her family and friends could have a gathering and share experiences and memories about her, as we saw in an episode of Star Trek: The Next Generation. Because our family and friends are so far away that wasn’t logistically feasible. Nonetheless that is what I tell people when I see them and they are sad about Wendy. It’s okay to offer condolences. But Wendy would prefer that people are content that her pain is over. Her 3+ year battle with cancer has ended. She is at peace. Her journey to the stars is now complete. She has moved on and she wanted the same for us.
We keep her in our memories and some of us feel a sense of loss without her. But we remember her and how strong she was and that brings me a sense of peace, despite the sense of loss. Wendy gave me 15 happy years. We recently celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary. She was a good mother and a good wife. At many businesses the staff knew and liked Wendy very much because she was a very friendly person with a great smile. This is how I will remember her.
This blog is now a memorial to Wendy Jo Savage. Wife. Mother. Maker. Lover of Nature.
In the future I will be posting things about Wendy. Little tid-bits that maybe you didn’t know about her. An insight into her life. So check back occasionally as there will be new things here. This isn’t my last post. I will try to post these updates to her Facebook page as well. Peace, everyone.